1. Clear guidelines with reasonable consequences from a unified front; cutting slack but also holding boys accountable for their actions.
2. Reasonable explanations for the criteria, guidelines and decisions made by parents.
3. Avoiding hyper-analysis of boys' emotions and states of mind: avoiding "taking their temperature" too often.
4. Unconditional love with an emphasis on character and effort more than outcome: Encourage boys to live up to their potential while having reasonable expectations. To love them regardless of whether they make it into Harvard or become a star quarterback.
5. Authenticity, faith and fidelity should be reflected in parent's lifestyles.
6. Qualities of a dad: Manliness, temperance, making significant time for family, putting aside work, and being a reliable source of guidance.
7. Qualities of a mom: Emotional stability, selflessness, loving service and extreme patience.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Seven Things Teenage Boys Most Need
Tall order, but these seem to ring true to me -- in my experience with 6 boys presently ages 22, 20, 16, 13, 9 and 6 -- whew : ) (I think these apply to raising girls too, by the way) You can read the whole thing here. (HT: Catholic Family Vignettes)